Manitoba·Video

Painful teen experience of being outed inspires Winnipegger to spread message of self-love

In the last part of a four-part video series exploring identity with several Filipinos living in Winnipeg, Filipino-Winnipegger Dave encourages other people to lean into the discomfort and pain they feel when discovering their true selves.

New short film 'I am iba' encapsulates identity struggle in three letters

Painful outing as teen drive's mission of self love

3 years ago
Duration 3:10
In the short film I am iba, a Filipino-Winnipegger grapples with where they fit in within queer culture. Video: Video by Joanne Roberts, Kris Regacho, Toby Zheng, and Alexander Decebal-Cuza.

When Dave was in Grade 10, they came out to a group of friends.

"I told them something they didn't want to hear, weren't ready to hear."

The next day, those so-called friends told a bunch of other people and Dave's secret was out. 

"It stinks because I am not trying to impress anyone," said Dave, who was 15 years old at the time and uses they/them pronouns. "I'm just trying to discover who I am." 

Dave, a web series host in Winnipeg, identifies as 'iba,' or 'different' in Tagalog. They want other queer people to discover an identity that fits for them. (Alexander Decebal-Cuza)

Today Dave, the Winnipeg-based host of a web series, is sharing their own message of self-love in the new short film I am iba

(CBC is not using Dave's last name because they are concerned for their safety.) 

Instead of "bakla" (queer in Tagalog), Dave calls themselves "iba," or "different."

"It encapsulates me in three letters," they said. 

In the film, Dave encourages people who struggle with self-acceptance and self-love to realize that even if they don't love themselves right now, someone else does.

Dave's story of acceptance and identity is the final piece in a four-part video series by Winnipeg filmmaker Joanne Roberts and her team of Kris Regacho, Toby Zheng, and Alexander Decebal-Cuza.

Since starting the series, Roberts has been hired as a community journalist with CBC Manitoba's Pathways program, a five-month-long paid journalism training program.

You can see the other films in the series at these links:

About the filmmaker

Joanne Roberts has built her career through fiercely advocating for a more inclusive and equitable arts industry.

In 2020, she won the prestigious Emerging Filmmakers Pitch Competition at Gimli Film Festival and has since been regularly releasing works in various mediums that challenge and dismantle societal norms.

Find her on social media @reporterjoanne. 

Joanne Roberts is an award-winning filmmaker based in Winnipeg. (Submitted by Joanne Roberts )