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Mother angered by MPs' 'disgusting' treatment of her daughter at meeting on domestic violence

The mother of a witness who left a House of Commons committee in Ottawa after giving emotional testimony earlier this week says the MPs who were involved mistreated her daughter.

Woman's ire, outlined in letter, directed at representatives of 3 political parties

A woman is pictured in front of a wood-paneled wall.
Cait Alexander, a survivor of domestic violence, is shown in Toronto in May. She testified on Wednesday at an emergency meeting in Ottawa called to discuss violence against women in light of several high-profile cases. She left in tears after the meeting was overtaken by political bickering. (Cole Burston/The Canadian Press)

The mother of a witness who stormed out of a House of Commons committee in tears berated Liberal, New Democrat and Conservative politicians for a "disgusting" partisan display in a letter that she plans to share with MPs.

"I taught six- to eight-year-olds for 31 years and I have never seen such self-serving, abusive, poorly behaved people in my life," Carolyn Alexander said in Friday's letter.

"You are not children. You are the voted-in leaders that can effect positive change on the lives of all Canadians. Do that!"

Alexander's daughter Cait, a survivor of domestic violence, gave harrowing testimony on Wednesday at an emergency meeting in Ottawa that was called to discuss violence against women in light of several high-profile cases this summer.

The meeting quickly derailed after Liberal MP Anita Vandenbeld took issue with the hastily organized summer meeting and brought a motion to debate abortion rights. That led the meeting to dissolve into a fracas of procedural chaos and political bickering that had little to do with violence against women.

Carolyn Alexander accused Vandenbeld of purposely destroying the meeting and silencing victims.

"Why? Because you weren't given enough time to have your own victims testify?" she wrote.

"You used Cait as a victim to score points for your political gain, to make it look like the Conservatives were using Cait."

WATCH | Dramatic, emotional exit for witnesses:

Domestic abuse witnesses walk out of Commons women’s committee

4 months ago
Duration 1:56
Witnesses left a parliamentary committee upset after Liberals tried to steer a planned discussion about violence against women toward the topic of abortion rights. Conservative MP Michelle Ferreri apologized on behalf of the committee, but the mother of one witness responded “sorry isn’t good enough.”

Alexander's daughter demanded an apology from Vandenbeld, but the MP fell short of that late Wednesday, and instead said she deeply regrets the "distress that this meeting caused the witnesses."

In her letter, Alexander also chided the Conservatives, and asked if the purpose of the meeting was a political ploy at the expense of her daughter to show how the Liberals and NDP would react.

She also questioned why her daughter's information was provided to other parties just hours before the meeting and why they didn't allow more time for planning — something the Liberal and NDP members of the committee took great issue with.

Exit has become political fight

The Conservative members of the committee, including MPs Michelle Ferreri and Anna Roberts, have posted dozens of times about the hearing on social media, lambasting the Liberals and NDP members and demanding apologies.

Party spokesperson Sebastian Skamski said Conservative MPs proposed and conducted the meeting in good faith, as did the witnesses.

"It's unfortunate that the Liberal-NDP coalition members worked to derail the meeting rather than defend the disastrous criminal justice policies they support," Skamski said in a statement.

"Conservatives will continue efforts to hold more committee meetings in line with an expanded motion we proposed that will allow for further study and witness testimony on this critical matter, and hope that Liberal-NDP members will treat this issue with the seriousness it warrants."

WATCH | NDP leader reacts to committee exit:

Singh is asked about NDP’s role in committee hearing that left witnesses upset

4 months ago
Duration 1:12
During a stop in London, Ont. on Aug. 1, NDP Leader Jagmeet Singh responds to a question about how two witnesses left a Commons committee hearing upset after a Liberal MP steered a planned discussion on violence against women toward the topic of abortion rights.

Alexander also directed her ire at NDP MP Leah Gazan, accusing her of scheming with the Liberals to "sabotage" the meeting.

Gazan had said on Wednesday that she was not able to put forward witnesses of her own at the meeting, despite living in "ground zero" for missing and murdered Indigenous women and girls, and chastised the politicization of a committee that has historically worked together toward meaningful change.

"Did you even recognize that you silenced our daughter who was sharing her own and 25 other stories of survivors of [intimate partner violence] and [sexual assault] that were not properly dealt with by the police, judicial system and the government?" Alexander said in a passage addressed to Gazan. "You silenced our daughter's voice."

Alexander said she is "astounded" by the strength of her daughter, but also by the partisanship and lack of caring and understanding the government has shown in tackling the issue of violence against women.

She ended the letter by saying her family and friends fully support her daughter for using her voice to support survivors of intimate partner violence, adding that Cait and others like her want to see positive change around the issue.

"Sadly, after the events last Wednesday in the House of Commons, I can't see that happening," she said. "Shame on us all."