Manitoba's ex-Liberal leader target of lewd photos, offers of sex during election
WARNING: This article contains graphic language
Former Liberal leader Rana Bokhari says she received offers of sex hook-ups, racist attacks, death threats and even a photo of a penis while leading the party through the Manitoba election in April.
Bokhari dealt with an onslaught of sexist and racist attacks during her time as Liberal leader, she said, but the thick-skinned lawyer regrets one thing: That she didn't speak up about them sooner.
"The inequality in these situations is so extreme that I just want people to understand it," Bokhari said during a lengthy interview with CBC News.
The arrival of a picture of a man's genitals shocked even Bokhari, who has a reputation for toughness.
"I yelled! I got very upset. I got mad … and all I could say was, 'What can I do?'" Bokhari said.
She erased the offensive photo, but the image and all that's behind it linger in her mind.
Bokhari led an inexperienced team that went into the campaign ahead of the April 19 election with high hopes, but a series of blunders and lack of funds meant the Liberals won only three seats in the Manitoba Legislature — a disappointment, but still an improvement on the single seat they held previously.
But as the party struggled to maintain momentum, Bokhari dealt with messages she doesn't hesitate to label sexual harassment, not to mention racist attacks including accusations that she was a terrorist, she said.
"Absolutely they are sexual harassment. I felt like many other women feel like in those situations. What are you willing to take? Are you willing to take the backlash of going public with this or do you just suck it up and keep moving?" Bokhari said.
Bokhari, in full campaign mode, sucked it up and kept moving.
"I just thought, no matter what I said or what I did I was going to cause my team … like, take me out of the picture. It's my job, it's my responsibility. I have to make sure the team's OK," she said.
Bokhari regrets not saying 'hell no'
Bokhari said she learned much from the recent campaign, was thrilled to meet people across the province, especially in northern Manitoba, and views it as a net-positive experience, but there is a big "but" hanging over her head.
"My biggest regret is this conversation right here. It was my responsibility as a young woman who was dealing with that stuff to come out and say 'hell no.' No, no, no, no. So that other women behind me who are going to deal with it, they are able to say, 'no, she did it — she broke the barrier, now I am going to do it.' And I was unable to do that," Bokhari said.
Crosses party lines and generations
There was no social media when former senator Sharon Carstairs led the Liberals to 20 seats in the Manitoba Legislature and became leader of the Opposition.
Carstairs said though the number of women in politics is growing, gender-based bashing still thrives and as a society, Canada has work to do.
"We haven't reached the stage of genuine equality in this country yet," Carstairs said.
"Very gender specific in some cases; there was some online comments, anonymous comments made, when my body shape and hair colour entered the conversation. Then we know, we aren't dealing with legitimate conversations any more. We're dealing with just absolute bullying and gender-based harassment."
Squires said one of the biggest challenges is sheltering her children from that kind of commentary. However, she's encouraged by the slow but steady rise in the number of women getting into politics, and says finding positive role-models helps push back against the hate.
The language of anger
Both as a cabinet minister and later as a leadership candidate for the NDP, Theresa Oswald was the recipient of some foul language.
Oswald said that as a minister, her staff shielded her from some of the more vile harassment, but pointed out that it was often other women who had to sift through those communications — exposing them to the ugly language.
Oswald has some advice for women in public life and who are the target of such behaviour — expose it.
"Speak up. And speak up right that minute. Because there will never be an easier time than the moment it's happening. It's so much more difficult in the aftermath," Oswald said.
That advice is close to the conclusion Bokhari reached when her social media feeds continued to get clogged up with nasty words.
"The minute I started to stick up for myself, it definitely did stop. But until I did that, it was constant," Bokhari said.
Bokhari bubbles with enthusiasm about her new job as a lawyer and partner in a firm, and won't rule out politics again some day. But should that time come, she wouldn't suffer the same abuse again. She's not taking it anymore.
Part 2 of CBC's conversation with Bokhari on the election will be published on Tuesday.