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What do adults not get about bullying?

CBC News Vancouver held a live forum on bullying at a North Vancouver secondary school on Wednesday that asked the question: What do adults not get about bullying?

Anti-bullying forum

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Teens at a CBC forum in B.C. talked about what adults do not understand about bullying

CBC News Vancouver held a live forum on bullying at a North Vancouver secondary school on Wednesday that asked the question: What do adults not get about bullying?

The forum at Argyle Secondary School was hosted by local television news anchor Gloria Macarenko and B.C. Almanac host Mark Forsythe.

Students at Argyle shared their personal experiences and observations.

"A lot of things have changed since their generation in terms of social media and just how bullying happens in general," said Grade 12 student Austin.

"So we think that there’s a lot of different things and different approaches that we need to take ... taking peer approaches and making it socially unacceptable to bully, just like we have with other movements like women’s rights all through our history."

Lucy, another Grade 12 student, agreed social media has changed the landscape of bullying.

Students shared their personal experiences with bullying. (CBC)

"I think, especially when I talked to my parents about it, they had a stereotypical view of a bully ... the really tough kids that push kids into lockers, and it’s not like that anymore with Facebook and twitter. It’s easier to be anonymous with it."

Cyrus, now in Grade 12, told CBC he was bullied in Grade 9.

"Parents don’t put themselves in their children’s shoes and they don’t understand ... When I was bullied, when adults finally intervened, the severity of the situation actually increased and it made the bullying worse," he said.

"I was bullied because I was different — I was a small kid and I dressed differently, I guess — and I was bullied to the point where I was threatened to be hurt, online and at school."

Cyrus said he was too scared to tell anyone, and nothing changed until the school's administration finally intervened in a way that stopped the bullying.

"It was definitely something that really affected me but on the whole I was very lucky because I didn’t feel the need to take it to the level that Amanda Todd did, and there’s just so many extremes out there that people are getting bullied look towards," Cyrus said.

"But they’ve got to realize that they’ve got to be stronger and there’s better purpose and them being bullied, it’s not their fault — it’s society and it’s everybody else ... and they’ve just got to lift themselves above that."

Teenagers, teachers and parents also weighed in on our live chat and on twitter. Click below to replay the online chat.