Holiday survival guide for the introvert

Introverts often dread the socialization many perceive as a standard feature of the holiday season, but a Calgary therapist says there are many ways to mitigate awkward situations, and saying no is OK.

"People who need more time away from others to collect themselves and reconnect with themselves" is Tracy Guillet's definition of an introvert.

"They tend to be more independent, more private people."

Guillet runs a practice that is focused on introverts, anxiety and relationship management.

She says business is hopping for her at this time of year.

"Feeling overwhelmed when we're in large groups of people, even if it's our family," is a common feeling she hears.

"We can feel quite isolated even when we are with people. So it's how to show up and still enjoy yourself. People who have a more extroverted partner who is getting lots of invites, and they don't always want to go, so that can cause issues."

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So what can introverts do?

Decide what you have to go to and what you don't, Guillet told The Homestretch.

"Are there things that you can say no to without offending people?  We don't want to take time away from all the social activities happening, so we just plow through it and then we end up being drained, depleted and we completely withdraw."

But here's how you can word a decline that is honest without being offensive.

"You know, I'm really at my capacity, and if I did show up, it wouldn't be a very good visit. Can we connect sometime in the New Year?"