Ethan: Space for a new baby

"As I was sitting there, just a complete mess after close to 60 hours of labour, I didn't know if I was going to leave the hospital with one or two: my wife, my baby, or both."

- Ethan

Hillary works with Ethan to imagine playing and connecting with his new baby. He's worked for years to process the terrifying experience of almost losing his wife during the birth of their first child.

Listen for:

• Ethan is able to tell the story of his daughter's traumatic birth with the ending that everything turned out okay. It's a sign that he's healing.

• Imagining is a powerful way to create new neural pathways.

• Guilt is a way to know that our value system has been compromised. It can guide you to go do something that is important to you.

• The availability heuristic: "How our brains look for the most available evidence for proof of whatever it is we already believe," explains Hillary.