Inappropriate Questions

Is asking 'Where are you from?' appropriate small talk?

People are genuinely curious to learn about each others’ backgrounds or cultures. While this question might start a good conversation, it can also often make people feel othered and unwelcome.

It’s a staple of small talk, but should it be?

"Where are you from?" is a common small talk question, but it's actually pretty personal and loaded. (Grace D. Chin)

It's a staple of small talk, but should it be? People are genuinely curious to learn about each others' backgrounds or cultures. While this question might start a good conversation, it can also often make people feel othered and unwelcome. So where do we go from here?

This week, Elena and Harv speak with:

  • Journalist Eternity Martis about getting this question as a Black woman both in big cities and smaller towns

  • Professor Eva Jewell, who offers some insight into how this question can be a great way to make connections when Indigenous peoples ask it to each other

  • Professor Kevin Nadal, who shares some helpful tips for anyone who asks or gets asked this question.

Find the transcript for the episode here.

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(Grace D. Chin)

Grace D. Chin is an artist based in Berlin, Germany.

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